What to do when someone close might have depression
First and foremost, when you suspect your friend/sibling might be dealing with depression, have an open conversation with them. Ask how they are feeling what’s been troubling them. It’s crucial to listen without rushing to offer solutions and, more importantly without passing judgment.
While you might feel the world doesn’t seem so dark yourself, it doesn’t help to tell this a person with depression. Avoid downplaying their struggles, even if they seem insignificant to you. You might consider asking your friend/sibling if they ever hurt themselves or if they’ve had thoughts about wanting to die. Don’t hesitate to ask these questions. Research has shown that discussing these topics with someone who has depression does not increase the risk for suicide. Instead, it can lead to opportunities for further help and treatment.
It’s important to recognize that suicide is the 3rd leading cause of deaths among adolescents. Many individuals who attempt suicide or take their own lives have a form of psychiatric illness like depression. Many also hide their struggles from those around them, including parents and friends.
If your friend/sibling might be dealing with depression but doesn’t feel like talking, don’t push them. Instead reassure them that you are there for them whenever they are ready.
Encourage them to reach out to other trusted people such as parents or the school psychologist. If you are genuinely concerned about their well-being and they’re not opening up, consider talking to other people who know them well.
Reassure your friend/sibling, let them know that depression is very common and that they’re not alone experiencing it. Remind them that there’s no shame in seeking help, like you do for any other disease.
Additional Resources
Here are 2 websites that offer specific advice for talking to adolescents and children: